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Other => The Office => Topic started by: Lord Deacon Of Frost on September 30, 2009, 03:01:51 PM
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Niggas on here front like they be going 50/50 on every date. But, every man in here know, when they in a relationship & the girl is wifey....we know we be treating em on every date. Its just something we do. not on some simpage shit, but, most niggas not gonna split hairs & make they main bitch split a 20 movie ticket & meal from McDonalds.
With that said
Broads!!!!!!!
every now & then....Surprise your man, take his a** out to his favorite spot, whatever that nigga like to do, movies, restaurant, sports game, & when the waiter brings the bill, dont look up to the ceiling & away from it, pay the bill & treat us every now & then
I just gave some valuable advice to the ladies but, there brothers I f***IN SAID IT for you dont act like this shit I said hasn't cross your mind before.
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Wow!! Could it be, that one of AG's no. 1 misogynistic males is finally growing up?? Nah never that.
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once a month, take the nigga to the srtip club, he will love you forever.
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Wow!! Could it be, that one of AG's no. 1 misogynistic males is finally growing up?? Nah never that.
in other words you dont wanna pay
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yo, i cosign this thread and most importantly the content of the topic, women treat us men like we their dumb a** charity cases. whenever there's a financial problem we supposed to back that shit up. ive dated a multiple broads in my life but ive never had a chick take me out on a restaurant or to the cinema to watch a movie. only places ive been taken to is a friend's house to watch Tyler perry's movies or the wimpy to get an ice cream FOR HER.
tell a bitch to come with you and your boys to some gig, she screams the f*** out and hugs the crap out of your ribs coz she's excited that she's gonna get drunk and act a fool together with her man. now tell me this, does a bitch ever does the same to you, like invite you to a girls night out, you dont have to go with em but you can be on the low and move besides them? a chick never buys enough booze for her dude, she only deceives your thirsty a** with a six pack and that's it, next morning you compelled to buy her six packs of savanna and a red heart. WTF!!!
try going out with your dudes to a strip club or to a prostitute zone or any place with half naked women, the bitch will be givin you a red pitbull lookin face when you show up the next day and when its her who goes to watch some gay a** half naked fellas you supposed to cosign and listen to her annoying story of how they spanked the dudes. U f***ING KIDDING ME?
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@Mad, try dating women instead of bitches.
@Deac, working sensible women do this for their men. In fact, (you can quote me on this) there's nothing a woman won't do (within reason) to please the man she loves.
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Ladies:once a month you should take yo man out..ON YOU!!!
Don't be ridiculous!
Once a month? Just once?
Then what will you eat for the rest of the month?
I have to be taken out daily. I only have supper at the finest of establishments, providing the woman is paying. The rest of the time I eat russian and chips.
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@Mad, try dating women instead of bitches.
@Deac, working sensible women do this for their men. In fact, (you can quote me on this) there's nothing a woman won't do (within reason) to please the man she loves.
no offense, but since ive been played by women every time im in a relationship ive became extremely skeptical about true love and ive came to a conclusion that all women who go night clubs, watch pron movies, drink savanna and wear stiletto's are bitches literally. so i regard all the women i was involved with in the past bitches and im quite skeptical if there's any women out there below the age of 25 without a bitchiness in her mind.
funny coz i had this conversation with a friend a couple days back and he was saying the exact same thing you saying and i told him the exact same thing i told you. well, its not like im not comfortable with dating bitches, im just tired of being treated like a man without interests. ask any men out there, there aint no relationship better than a relationship with a bitch.
who wants to have vagina whilst he is still on his 20"s?
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Lol Pyro.
Ai ai ai modern men mara. Men are supposed to be the providers. Back in the day, men used to love takin a beautiful woman out, it made them feel like true men, to be able to provide like that. Nowadays, men want to be taken out on the daily, what f***ery is that? I really believe that i was born too late, because this generation of men really sucks! LOL but then again, Im a hater so disregard my babbling!;D
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Ai Mad, you're hopeless! I wish I could know the exact number of women that have been played by men but I don't, its probably too large a number anyway. So forgive me for not showing you any sympathy!
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Lol Pyro.
Ai ai ai modern men mara. Men are supposed to be the providers. Back in the day, men used to love takin a beautiful woman out, it made them feel like true men, to be able to provide like that. Nowadays, men want to be taken out on the daily, what f***ery is that? I really believe that i was born too late, because this generation of men really sucks! LOL but then again, Im a hater so disregard my babbling!;D
That was when women knew their place and didn't demand equal rights.
Now you want me to provide for you, treat you like a lady, protect you and you wanna be full of shit when I ask you to rub my back or cook for me?
Women are lucky the rule of thumb is no longer applicable. Cos apparently you're people too now.
If you want me to provide for you. I expect to come home from work, have a hot meal and a cold beer and my favourite book or movie waiting for me. I also expect the poundage whenever I damn well feel like it. No complaints.
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Dude, i'd gladly clean your house, carry your kids and take care of them, cook for you, rub your back, etc. As long as I wont be working an 8 - 4:30 job like you. Go out there and hunt, while i stay in the cave, makin a home for us.
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Dude, i'd gladly clean your house, carry your kids and take care of them, cook for you, rub your back, etc. As long as I wont be working an 8 - 4:30 job like you. Go out there and hunt, while i stay in the cave, makin a home for us.
and i thought u were a feminist :'( :'( smh at this lady
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I'm a hater of modern men.
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what pyro is saying is true though...
we can't have it both ways
be a feminist but then don't expect chivalry from men,otherwise its hypocritical
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Thank you Anna, that's what I've been waiting to hear all this time. Unfortunately no one really puts it into practice. Recently my girl complained that i don't buy her flowers, or do romantic things....
What is romance, anyway? ;D
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True.........Hence I think i was born too late. The 40's or 100BC would have worked just fine for me.
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be a feminist but then don't expect chivalry from men,otherwise its hypocritical
yes kelis, make up your mind or become a lesbian like all the well-meaning feminists out there.
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what pyro is saying is true though...
Of course it is. He is Pyro, after all...
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What is romance, anyway? ;D
When you fetch her a towel after Peter Northing her face.
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God made men & women to support and help each other, not for the men to exploit women or vise versa. I apologise Pyro for bringin God into this but I fear that my arguement is falling on deaf ears. But I still mentain that I hate modern men and all that they represent.
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God made men & women to support and help each other, not for the men to exploit women or vise versa. I apologise Pyro for bringin God into this but I fear that my arguement is falling on deaf ears. But I still mentain that I hate modern men and all that they represent.
Who is this God character you speak of and why is he involved with made men? Made women too? He has women in his family? How is his business?
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this thread is going 5 pages deep today im telling you
i cosign with what pyro said about women wanting to be peer to men on everything, back in the days women would do all the house work while the man is away working and when he comes back, he treats he will then spoil his wife and thank him for all the support she has given him. a man's love, guidance, respect and financial backing was like a reward to a woman who worked hard to ensure that her man is adequately supplied with what ever he needed. now the government has complicated all this shit, the world was cool and a man's place in the home was visible until women started demanding all these so called guiding prerogatives and that was when the world of men came to an end. ok when a man is like "ok f*** this shit, ima let this bitch have all she wants and when she slaps me, ima slap back at her". then the government starts talking all this nonsense like men aren't supposed to hit back at an angry women, like WTF man, thought u said we was equal n shit?
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In 10000 bc men would go hunting and the ladies would gather fruits around the cave and protect children. There was a lot of pressure on men then to supply.
10000 years after. Both men and women go hunting and gathering. The period of child care is much shorter. Yet there is still a lof of pressure on men to provide.
something seems wrong in this equation.
Anyway... "All the women, who're indepedent, lets go 50/50" the wise words of Mdu. that ratio works well for me
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Excuse you Onek1nd but women go hunting with men and still come back home to fullfill their wifey duties i.e cook, clean, help kids with homework, etc while the men chills and watch sport. But oh no "we" don't recognise this, oh no sir, its all about the bloody men, boo whoo feel sorry for the men!!!! GTFOH
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i would never ever in my precious life go 50/50 with a women i married, if the father is the head of the family, then let me practice my duties appropriately with out any disturbance from the wife. if a women wants a 50/50 typa relationship then i dont mind seating my a** on the couch for all day and play hide n seek with the kids and sprinkle popcorns everywhere in the house whilst my wife is out in the dangerous streets of this cold world working hard to bring us something to eat. would be one hellafa life!!!
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I would not be suprised.
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i would never ever in my precious life go 50/50 with a women i married, if the father is the head of the family, then let me practice my duties appropriately with out any disturbance from the wife. if a women wants a 50/50 typa relationship then i dont mind seating my a** on the couch for all day and play hide n seek with the kids and sprinkle popcorns everywhere in the house whilst my wife is out in the dangerous streets of this cold world working hard to bring us something to eat. would be one hellafa life!!!
wakakakaka!
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"Cos apparently you're people too now" hahahahahahahaha damn pyro thats some gomu gomu no realshit! I had a flash in my mind of some cat returning a woman to a store on sum "Sorry sir, this bitch is broken"
FuS
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50/50 is good but the reality is Man pay more and the funny thing is they dont say or admit it to their buddies they pay :D :D :D
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50/50 is good but the reality is Man pay more and the funny thing is they dont say or admit it to their buddies they pay :D :D :D
which is the way thimgs should be. You fork out the money,we fork out the cake
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50/50 is good but the reality is Man pay more and the funny thing is they dont say or admit it to their buddies they pay :D :D :D
which is the way thimgs should be. You fork out the money,we fork out the cake
mmmmmmmmh!!! my body is already vibrating I wouldnt mind that ;D
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50/50 is good but the reality is Man pay more and the funny thing is they dont say or admit it to their buddies they pay :D :D :D
which is the way thimgs should be. You fork out the money,we fork out the cake
y'al exagerrate this cake forking out thing. y'all know u dont give it as much as u should
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50/50 is good but the reality is Man pay more and the funny thing is they dont say or admit it to their buddies they pay :D :D :D
which is the way thimgs should be. You fork out the money,we fork out the cake
y'al exagerrate this cake forking out thing. y'all know u dont give it as much as u should
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Ha ha True!
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50/50 is good but the reality is Man pay more and the funny thing is they dont say or admit it to their buddies they pay :D :D :D
which is the way thimgs should be. You fork out the money,we fork out the cake
y'al exagerrate this cake forking out thing. y'all know u dont give it as much as u should
HAHAHAHAHA...Tell em why you mad son.
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But on the real though relationships, especially marriage, were not designed with women's best interests in mind. im pretty sure i read somewhere that women's life expectancy actually decreases the day she says "i do" or the day she decides to be in a long-term relationship :)
men will always be important because we need sex and to have the lights-bulbs changed etc, now if we can get a point where they also clean & cook without thinking they are "doing something special" then the whole 50/50 thing will have real meaning....
in the meantime, we wait for the "modern man"
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50/50 is good but the reality is Man pay more and the funny thing is they dont say or admit it to their buddies they pay :D :D :D
which is the way thimgs should be. You fork out the money,we fork out the cake
Sounds like a slogan for a whorehouse...
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But on the real though relationships, especially marriage, were not designed with women's best interests in mind. im pretty sure i read somewhere that women's life expectancy actually decreases the day she says "i do" or the day she decides to be in a long-term relationship :)
men will always be important because we need sex and to have the lights-bulbs changed etc, now if we can get a point where they also clean & cook without thinking they are "doing something special" then the whole 50/50 thing will have real meaning....
in the meantime, we wait for the "modern man"
bullshit bullshit bullshit bullshit bullshit more bullshit and for the last time bullshit
now lookey here. the idea that men have the upper hand is ludicrous, lets move away from the cosmetic, cook for me, take care of the kids thing, reality is u guys (modern women) are lazy period
now there is no such thing as a marriage tilted to the man. really examine a marriage like really do, see how decisions are made and the motives for those decisions and you will realise that a woman's influence is behind most of the things that happen.
take the man away and the "modern" ..read: lazy woman will still not cook for herself or the kids,
full stop. im by no means saying men cant be unfair, but given the chance y'all women can be even more unfair,
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But on the real though relationships, especially marriage, were not designed with women's best interests in mind. im pretty sure i read somewhere that women's life expectancy actually decreases the day she says "i do" or the day she decides to be in a long-term relationship :)
stop reading thrashy magazines Motho!!! ;D ;D ;D
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But on the real though relationships, especially marriage, were not designed with women's best interests in mind. im pretty sure i read somewhere that women's life expectancy actually decreases the day she says "i do" or the day she decides to be in a long-term relationship :)
men will always be important because we need sex and to have the lights-bulbs changed etc, now if we can get a point where they also clean & cook without thinking they are "doing something special" then the whole 50/50 thing will have real meaning....
in the meantime, we wait for the "modern man"
No relationship/Marriage will ever work if the gender roles are not respected.Offcourse i'd treat my woman like my equal and i wouldnt mind cooking when she can't or when i just feel like eating good food, but this should never ever be difined as my role in the "relationship"
Dont know why, but suddenly women view cooking as a strategy designed by men to enslave them.WTF? all of a sudden women dont understand that we have our respective roles to play in the household, predefined as they may be but they're vital in ensuring a healthy relatonship...
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But on the real though relationships, especially marriage, were not designed with women's best interests in mind. im pretty sure i read somewhere that women's life expectancy actually decreases the day she says "i do" or the day she decides to be in a long-term relationship :)
men will always be important because we need sex and to have the lights-bulbs changed etc, now if we can get a point where they also clean & cook without thinking they are "doing something special" then the whole 50/50 thing will have real meaning....
in the meantime, we wait for the "modern man"
No relationship/Marriage will ever work if the gender roles are not respected.Offcourse i'd treat my woman like my equal and i wouldnt mind cooking when she can't or when i just feel like eating good food, but this should never ever be difined as my role in the "relationship"
Dont know why, but suddenly women view cooking as a strategy designed by men to enslave them.WTF? all of a sudden women dont understand that we have our respective roles to play in the household, predefined as they may be but they're vital in ensuring a healthy relatonship...
lazy lazy lazy!! they know damn well they will leave ur a** if u aint got a job and u cant take them to the movies once a month or foot that damn shoe fetish, u just ask them to cook once a week and ur enslaving them...
nx some bullshit
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, reality is u guys are lazy period
But what happens if your woman doesn't wana have kids, get married or cook?? is she lazy (as you say) or just choosing to only do the stuff that she is comfortable doing like drinking and perhaps taking out the trash every once in a while and maybe park out on the couch and watch re-runs of Boston legal all day?
since when is it bad to be lazy? isnt that what being equal is all about, now we can both be lazy together, happily ;)
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but this should never ever be difined as my role in the "relationship"
but who decides these gender roles Blizzy? why cant it be your role to cook in a relationship, chances are you will enjoy it in the end.
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Remember the former Intelligence chief who beat his wife cos she wouldn't cook? What do you guys think?
It was int he Sunday Times
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but this should never ever be difined as my role in the "relationship"
but who decides these gender roles Blizzy? why cant it be your role to cook in a relationship, chances are you will enjoy it in the end.
Unnatural...the only time this should be defined as my role is if i'm getting paid for it(Chef) or i'm at a braai,dont get me wrong I love cooking...I'm a mean cook too...most men are, but nature dictates...who am i to go against nature huh...
Stop being so lazy and play your part!!!
Remember the former Intelligence chief who beat his wife cos she wouldn't cook? What do you guys think?
It was int he Sunday Times
Most of these "Morden Women" cant even cook anyway...why do we keep them again?
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Remember the former Intelligence chief who beat his wife cos she wouldn't cook? What do you guys think?
It was int he Sunday Times
that a cooking wife is bad for the marriage. had the former intelligence chief been the one slaving behind the stove, the incident wouldve been avoided. Ask Jamie Oliver
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Remember the former Intelligence chief who beat his wife cos she wouldn't cook? What do you guys think?
It was int he Sunday Times
that a cooking wife is bad for the marriage. had the former intelligence chief been the one slaving behind the stove, the incident wouldve been avoided. Ask Jamie Oliver
I feel a strong urge to beat you right now.
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Unnatural... who am i to go against nature huh...
"what's so great about nature? [don't we all] love [our] unnatural lifestyle ???, with cars, clothes, running water and condoms???"
like Chris McEvoy said [along those lines] in that other piece about bigots. like bigots, hypocrites are just as bad, if not worse...which I have to admit that a lot of you guys are.
You are very happy to live "unnaturally" even "ungodly" lives only when it suits you is it unnatural? GTFO
men are lazy. full stop. why is this the norm and why am i not allowed to be lazy in peace too?
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motho...are you a feminist?
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motho...are you a feminist?
nope.
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motho...are you a feminist?
nope.
in your ideal situation what role would a man play in a relationship with you or marriage if thats in your plans?
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I feel a strong urge to beat you right now.
Lol, dude are you Venda or Shangaan. Anyway, where was I before I was interrupted by Choppa.
I think the modern man and woman are realising that the only thing that brings us together is reproduction. The only reason why the existing gender roles are the way they are is because women bear children. It is as simple as that. During the cave days, child-bearing women were to vulnerable to go out into the harsh environment to try and find food.
These roles were carried on up until the modern day where we are realising that they are redundant and vestigial at best. Nowadays we don't even have to make physical contact to have children.
The modern person is moving to a stage where marriage won't even be necessary and these issues will no longer plague us.
The only thing preventing us from total separation is orgasm. Men and women chase that sexual high. Our animalistic instincts coupled by hormones keep us looking, and mating, with most attractive sexual partners...
Marriage is going to be a thing of the past...
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Remember the former Intelligence chief who beat his wife cos she wouldn't cook? What do you guys think?
It was int he Sunday Times
that a cooking wife is bad for the marriage. had the former intelligence chief been the one slaving behind the stove, the incident wouldve been avoided. Ask Jamie Oliver
I feel a strong urge to beat you right now.
*giggle* temper, temper
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motho...are you a feminist?
nope.
in your ideal situation what role would a man play in a relationship with you or marriage if thats in your plans?
its not
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So uh motho are you gonna go make me a sandwich or not, ask baldi to help you
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at least some low life broad i had used to take me out on friday to this other ghetto tarven, we used to sip a lot of black label and go f*** each other for the whole night and wake up in the morning feeling like we were hit by a train
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So uh motho are you gonna go make me a sandwich or not, ask baldi to help you
that is unnatural and who am I to go against nature :P
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So uh motho are you gonna go make me a sandwich or not, ask baldi to help you
that is unnatural and who am I to go against nature :P
dont forget to slice the tomato thinly
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So uh motho are you gonna go make me a sandwich or not, ask baldi to help you
that is unnatural and who am I to go against nature :P
dont forget to slice the tomato thinly
but I thought u wanted to be taken out for a date once a month? now u settling for me and baldi chopping u up into thinly sliced pieces like we would, a tomato? u confuse me
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I feel a strong urge to beat you right now.
Marriage is going to be a thing of the past...
What a sad sad day that will be!
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Explain yourself my love.
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bwahahahahahahaha
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I feel a strong urge to beat you right now.
Lol, dude are you Venda or Shangaan. Anyway, where was I before I was interrupted by Choppa.
I think the modern man and woman are realising that the only thing that brings us together is reproduction. The only reason why the existing gender roles are the way they are is because women bear children. It is as simple as that. During the cave days, child-bearing women were to vulnerable to go out into the harsh environment to try and find food.
These roles were carried on up until the modern day where we are realising that they are redundant and vestigial at best. Nowadays we don't even have to make physical contact to have children.
The modern person is moving to a stage where marriage won't even be necessary and these issues will no longer plague us.
The only thing preventing us from total separation is orgasm. Men and women chase that sexual high. Our animalistic instincts coupled by hormones keep us looking, and mating, with most attractive sexual partners...
Marriage is going to be a thing of the past...
hmm. i don't know about this.
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marriage will not go away, the reasons why marriage happen is and will continue to change though
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marriage will not go away, the reasons why marriage happen is and will continue to change though
This man is telling the truth.
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I feel a strong urge to beat you right now.
Lol, dude are you Venda or Shangaan. Anyway, where was I before I was interrupted by Choppa.
I think the modern man and woman are realising that the only thing that brings us together is reproduction. The only reason why the existing gender roles are the way they are is because women bear children. It is as simple as that. During the cave days, child-bearing women were to vulnerable to go out into the harsh environment to try and find food.
These roles were carried on up until the modern day where we are realising that they are redundant and vestigial at best. Nowadays we don't even have to make physical contact to have children.
The modern person is moving to a stage where marriage won't even be necessary and these issues will no longer plague us.
The only thing preventing us from total separation is orgasm. Men and women chase that sexual high. Our animalistic instincts coupled by hormones keep us looking, and mating, with most attractive sexual partners...
Marriage is going to be a thing of the past...
an endangered specie, a man with sense :-*
Sex is for procreation. (And fun)
Marriage for companion, emotional connection.
Don't confuse the two...
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Marriage for companion, emotional connection.
this is evolving into something else,
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when you have a bf or a gf then shit is cool..sex is great and overall life is ok...as soon as youll talk about marriage and eventually get married shit just aint the same no more... :-[
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Not all the times. The amount of faith y'all have is astonishing.
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Not all the times. The amount of faith y'all have is astonishing.
so is the amount of failed marriages...
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Marriage for companion, emotional connection.
this is evolving into something else,
Into what?
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nevermind.
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my chick bought me a snadwich last night, think its a start
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Mad better than movies at her friend's [place and watching Tyler Perry movies. I agree 100% with Deacon. my chick used to do this. but that was months ago. Now the bill arrives and She doesn't even have to look away. We both know I'm paying. Aint that a bitch?
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laziness is bad.
also, sex shouldn't be a reward. not only is that one-dimensional, it's also sexually disempowering to women, and not to mention, probably the source for all this bullshit.
you don't have to do shit for me and i don't have to do shit for you. everything is done instead out of want. that's how i keeps it.
so Deac as much as i see where you're coming from i don't agree necessarily because it re-inforces an ideal i don't believe in. it's not anyone's job to do anything in a relationship unless you want it that way.
and i don't.
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The sad reality is that we (our generation of women ) were taught to be "independent women" by people who knew nothing of it. Our mother weren't these so called independent women so how they possibly know how to groom any. Our mothers force us to go to school and home schooling took the back leg. Yes, we don't cook half as well as our mothers because it was never a priority. The problem is that the same mothers who taught us to be "independent women" are the same people who then turned around and taught their sons that the woman's roll is to be in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant oh wait, she also needs to make her own money.
Men are so quick to complain when they're not getting a** anymore as though we don't like sex. Put yourself in a womans position. You go to work, deal with a lot of shit at office. Then come home to a man who, even though he's been home for the past three hours, is waiting on you to cook, wash the kids, help with home work and clean up and as if that's not enough still have the energy to lay on my back while you pounce on me all night. NO FREAKING WAYS. We don't use sex as a reward but if I came home and dinner was prepared,we're gonna have sex that night and not because I'm rewarding you for a job well done but because I actually have the energy to do so.
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Men are so quick to complain when they're not getting a** anymore as though we don't like sex. Put yourself in a womans position. You go to work, deal with a lot of shit at office. Then come home to a man who, even though he's been home for the past three hours, is waiting on you to cook, wash the kids, help with home work and clean up and as if that's not enough still have the energy to lay on my back while you pounce on me all night.
who actually lives like this? this is terrible. for both of them.
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Men are so quick to complain when they're not getting a** anymore as though we don't like sex. Put yourself in a womans position. You go to work, deal with a lot of shit at office. Then come home to a man who, even though he's been home for the past three hours, is waiting on you to cook, wash the kids, help with home work and clean up and as if that's not enough still have the energy to lay on my back while you pounce on me all night.
who actually lives like this? this is terrible. for both of them.
You'd be surprised.
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Men are so quick to complain when they're not getting a** anymore as though we don't like sex. Put yourself in a womans position. You go to work, deal with a lot of shit at office. Then come home to a man who, even though he's been home for the past three hours, is waiting on you to cook, wash the kids, help with home work and clean up and as if that's not enough still have the energy to lay on my back while you pounce on me all night.
who actually lives like this? this is terrible. for both of them.
You'd be surprised.
but since no one is holding a gun (are they?) to anyone's head why do these people get to be the examples of the modern relationship? i don't think people who subject themselves to shit like that have a very high opinion of themselves, and since it's self-inflicted, i don't see why i should feel sorry for them.
(why do people even have children in 2009, anyway? there isn't enough to go around as it is!)
but i'd like to know though, what is the man's role/duty in the relationship you've decribed?
@Black this 'modern woman' you talk off, does she live in her own house?
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salute baldi.
The sad reality is that we (our generation of women ) were taught to be "independent women" by people who knew nothing of it. Our mother weren't these so called independent women so how they possibly know how to groom any. Our mothers force us to go to school and home schooling took the back leg. Yes, we don't cook half as well as our mothers because it was never a priority. The problem is that the same mothers who taught us to be "independent women" are the same people who then turned around and taught their sons that the woman's roll is to be in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant oh wait, she also needs to make her own money.
Men are so quick to complain when they're not getting a** anymore as though we don't like sex. Put yourself in a womans position. You go to work, deal with a lot of shit at office. Then come home to a man who, even though he's been home for the past three hours, is waiting on you to cook, wash the kids, help with home work and clean up and as if that's not enough still have the energy to lay on my back while you pounce on me all night. NO FREAKING WAYS. We don't use sex as a reward but if I came home and dinner was prepared,we're gonna have sex that night and not because I'm rewarding you for a job well done but because I actually have the energy to do so.
salute panic.
you don't have to do shit for me and i don't have to do shit for you. everything is done instead out of want. that's how i keeps it. so Deac as much as i see where you're coming from i don't agree necessarily because it re-inforces an ideal i don't believe in. it's not anyone's job to do anything in a relationship unless you want it that way.
and i don't.
id add some things in there but maybe what all i want to share is, just how much ive been coming across something thats made me sit down and like wonder. i think its just with the changes that take place with time and certain things being more prominent now, coming to the fore but some relationships have always molded themselves around individuals and not societal expectations.
some families have been working in ways we are still grappling with now. angelina n sithebe is a writer who shares of how when she was growing up, her father raised six children as a stay at home dad. combed their hair, washed dishes and swept the stoep as she puts it. took them to the clinic, the zoo, movies, did the story telling. the mother was the breadwinner and he, the primary caretaker. i seem to be coming across quite a few of these stories. this isnt something new. in the same way women can choose to embody it all or parts.
so yes, no one is confined to anything. no one has to anything. be with who you want to be with, in the way you want to be with them. and then find your own rhythm of the give and take. as two individuals meeting and sharing. it may be things for some, for others it may not. you find your way. what is important is nurturing the ability to appreciate and be mindful of your partner. i think thats the most significant aspect of all this. i think this is what people are looking for, want.
if you choose carefully and choose properly, it will be someone who you 'want to' for. and who can flow right back to you.