damn, briCK, whyd you have to read the message, holmes! i get you on this, though. its a weak spot for cats. its cool if youre just getting to know the woman(although it might affect the progression, preventing it from becoming serious), but if youve beeen with the woman, invested and divested a lot, given up certain things and people, let her become part of your identity, raised her above everyone else and mythologised her - as people in serious relationships are wont to do - well, then, my friend, youre heading back down to Earth quickfast. its a male defect. or maybe immaturity. in any case most people like the idea of their partner more than their actual partner. and most cats would rather mystify women theyre serious with - this being their madonna, not whore - than acknowledge them as sexual beings with their own sexual history and desire outside of themselves. you ever heard Idiot Gear by Louis Logic? this one dude jokingly asks his wife how many dudes shes slept with - and who they were. she answers honestly and it drives the dude to insanity, like, he cant get it out of his dome and eventually bugs out, lol!
