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Hip Hop Forums => General Discussion => Topic started by: Naturelle on February 15, 2010, 02:58:00 PM
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You know the song, Next Lifetime by Erykah Badu? Has it ever happened to you? What did you do?
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It happens to me everyday.
At least three or four times...
It hurts so bad.
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It happens to me everyday.
At least three or four times...
It hurts so bad.
That's a high ratio pYro.
Does it feel like you are cheating every time? Knowing you prolly not ;D
Our president is proof that you can love more than one person at the same time...
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SOmetimes I just wanna be held and feel loved.
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I wont lie. I feel like cheating everyday too. There are so many beautiful women, and such little time. Sometimes i wish i could lower my moral standing.
I dont really love them all. I just want to lay with all of them, and then go back to the woman i love.
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SOmetimes I just wanna be held and feel loved.
Exactly. Just to listen and conversate and hang out.
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Yeah, you know. Deep stuff.
I like that, I feel so lonely sometimes...
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SOmetimes I just wanna be held and feel loved.
Exactly. Just to listen and conversate and hang out.
*does not compute*
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^^^^^ ;D ;D ;D LMAO!!!
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Listen: to other person coz they r so interesting.
Conversate: about things you wouldn't ideally talk about with other people coz it doesn't come naturally to and they would find it strange.
Its' a comfort/solace thing thats' so easy to get used to and hard to escape.
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I don't wanna talk, I just want to be held and squeezed really tight, and then cry in her bosom.
I feel a deep need to be loved. I feel like I need to overcome my fear of commitment and settle down with someone special.
Too bad I haven't fouond that someone yet, and hence I wallow alone in my pit of misery.
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whats the song about in relation to this? i know the song, never sensed that it's about cheating.
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Seriously though, I wanna go home and get some a**.
Who to call...
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whats the song about in relation to this? i know the song, never sensed that it's about cheating.
It's abt the dilemma you face when you caught between two equally awesome people. When you have to pa** on one coz you can't cheat and you can't hav both coz in the real world that ish just doesn't work.
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The me that used to deny myself things because of societal conventions is long gone.
I believe in indulging in all my desires now, as long as they don't endanger me or anyone else. We are human and this is part of who we are.
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damn.
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whats the song about in relation to this? i know the song, never sensed that it's about cheating.
It's abt the dilemma you face when you caught between two equally awesome people. When you have to pa** on one coz you can't cheat and you can't hav both coz in the real world that ish just doesn't work.
eish one heart is gonna be broken
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damn.
Wa**up panic?
@pYro: I think when you decide to commit to someone( one person at a time), you have a resposibilty towards fulfilling your promise to them. It's not a moral obligation. Thats' how I feel anyway. Whereas when you are single, you can do whatever you like without moral obligations as well. It's so restricting to always worry about what people will say.
Did you dig into your little black/white/Asian book for your needs yesterday?
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commit[/b] to someone( one person at a time), you have a resposibilty towards fulfilling your promise to them. It's not a moral obligation. Thats' how I feel anyway. Whereas when you are single, you can do whatever you like without moral obligations as well. It's so restricting to always worry about what people will say.
Did you dig into your little black/white/Asian book for your needs yesterday?
i like u...
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damn.
Wa**up panic?
sup, Nat.
quite a difficult one you put up here, huh...
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^^^ definitely a tough one. M sure we've all been here. the thing about these situations is as committed as you can be, you tend to enjoy that something new that the 3rd party can give. And it's usualy more than just a fleeting attraction. fux wit u for real coz You only live once...
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It happens.
We probably all have the ability to fall in love with more than one person at a time or even more than two.
I've loved them all for different reasons, without sex in mind, real attraction, real conversations, real connection. Feeling's as intense that they make you think about talking them into marrying them all. Its love yall, nothing about it is limited to one thing, nothing about it is limited to one person.
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Being in love with more than one person isn't easy but I think to some degree something can be done. You can avoid the other person but being in love with someone you can't have is the ultimate shit hole especially when you can see that the person feels the same way but has "an obligation" to the other. I hate love actually you know what I HATE everything.
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I hate love actually you know what I HATE everything.
Welcome to my world.
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The me that used to deny myself things because of societal conventions is long gone.
This right here is the truf but in practice it's a bit hard to do...which brings me to this nagging question in my head why would people go through a divorce after more than 25 years of marriage i mean have they been facking to love each other all these years to prove that their marriage can survive .....smh
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Not necessarily. Sometimes you love someone completely, but still there are certain issues that just make it impossible for the two of you to carry on being together. Then it is better to split up, because staying would just cause both of you to be miserable.
Misery loves company though, and sometimes I wish I had someone to be miserable with.
I needs poundage.
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The me that used to deny myself things because of societal conventions is long gone.
This right here is the truf but in practice it's a bit hard to do...which brings me to this nagging question in my head why would people go through a divorce after more than 25 years of marriage i mean have they been facking to love each other all these years to prove that their marriage can survive .....smh
There are many reasons. it could be based on their level of tolerence(if one partner keeps f***ing up or has bad habits) or one partner changed over time or even both or maybe something else. I dont have the experience to come to such conclusions but I really believe its more a matter of relationship management.
I a**ure you that couples who been together for more than 50 years have enough reasons to breakup. Partners can never be that perfect for each other, in the true sense of the word.
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i can only love one person at a time, though.
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The me that used to deny myself things because of societal conventions is long gone.
This right here is the truf but in practice it's a bit hard to do...which brings me to this nagging question in my head why would people go through a divorce after more than 25 years of marriage i mean have they been facking to love each other all these years to prove that their marriage can survive .....smh
There are many reasons. it could be based on their level of tolerence(if one partner keeps f***ing up or has bad habits) or one partner changed over time or even both or maybe something else. I dont have the experience to come to such conclusions but I really believe its more a matter of relationship management.
I a**ure you that couples who been together for more than 50 years have enough reasons to breakup. Partners can never be that perfect for each other, in the true sense of the word.
I don't know what to say RR but this right here nigga I co-sign fully....next question do you guys HONESTLY think that humans were meant to be monogomous?
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No, it is not natural at all. It is one of those societal conventions which I have decided to disregard completely.
We have been brainwashed by the church for so long that we think this is natural and that the imaginary friend in the sky will punish us if we don't fall in line.
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I don't know what to say RR but this right here nigga I co-sign fully....next question do you guys HONESTLY think that humans were meant to be monogomous?
I large part of me doubt that.
did u see that ladies? a large part of me. get it? ;)
kidding
I dont thinks so man. That we are able to love more than one person at a time is evident enough that we were not meant to be monogomous.
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No, it is not natural at all. It is one of those societal conventions which I have decided to disregard completely.
We have been brainwashed by the church for so long that we think this is natural and that the imaginary friend in the sky will punish us if we don't fall in line.
cosign this.
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I don't know what to say RR but this right here nigga I co-sign fully....next question do you guys HONESTLY think that humans were meant to be monogomous?
I large part of me doubt that.
did u see that ladies? a large part of me. get it? ;)
kidding
I dont thinks so man. That we are able to love more than one person at a time is evident enough that we were not meant to be monogomous.
(http://fast1.onesite.com/community.allhiphop.com/user/rdm3/co-sign.jpg)
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I don't know what to say RR but this right here nigga I co-sign fully....next question do you guys HONESTLY think that humans were meant to be monogomous?
I large part of me doubt that.
did u see that ladies? a large part of me. get it? ;)
kidding
I dont thinks so man. That we are able to love more than one person at a time is evident enough that we were not meant to be monogomous.
You niccas making excuses for sluts and slores???......i like my wimmins virgins...i gotta be first.
On the real though this shit looks good on theory....but never works practically, niccas talking this free love mess.... when feelings are involved that theory is out the door...
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You niccas making excuses for sluts and slores???......i like my wimmins virgins...i gotta be first.
On the real though this shit looks good on theory....but never works practically, niccas talking this free love mess.... when feelings are involved that theory is out the door...
Reread the thread and then edit your post to remove the stupid.
We said that sometimes it's not about sex, but about feelings. It is possible to have feelings for more than one person.
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for a long time monogamy was bullshit...i think it's the healthy, smarter option, now, though. it's kind of like in vogue, to do it in a faithful, but self-aware way. like the kind of thing taken up by highly educated young people who eat organic product and recycle. you know, Africa's 'Tomorrow People.'
but besides that, why is it fact that people can love more than one person? can someone really love someone they don't really know?
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can someone really love someone they don't really know?
This is impossible. When I talk about love, I'm not referring to the actual chemical reaction which is brought on by pheromones in the blood when you are around that someone new.
This excitement wears off, then you have to have some actual things which make you happy about being with the person. Sharing similar interests, being able to spend time in each other's company constantly, sharing feelings, connecting physically and maintaining an attraction etc.
This is what I think love is and it is totally possibel to have that with more than one person.
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You niccas making excuses for sluts and slores???......i like my wimmins virgins...i gotta be first.
On the real though this shit looks good on theory....but never works practically, niccas talking this free love mess.... when feelings are involved that theory is out the door...
Reread the thread and then edit your post to remove the stupid.
We said that sometimes it's not about sex, but about feelings. It is possible to have feelings for more than one person.
man save that slick shit for somebody else...the first part was an actual joke so go on ahead with that stupid shit.
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On the question of whether we supposed to be monogamous, I figure it's safer these days to keep it that way. However, I'm with a Pyro here, if u really wanna still chill with the 3rd party even after the euphoria has died then u may have a real problem coz it means u feeling them on that deep level.
Anyway, methinks the concept of marriage makes no sense. Like RR pointed out earlier, shit changes, people change, life throws shit at u and sometimes it's too much for people to handle. We should be able to handle Slight behavioural changes, but people can make complete 360s and nobody signs up for that.
I feel that as humans we are capable of monogamy but that some people are forced to sacrifice much more than others in order to sustain monogamous relationships.
Typing on my phone so please excuse any grammatical or other mistakes
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wat a tough one. yes it is possible to love two people but its all self created action. what im sayin is, we enable situations to move in that particular direction.
waiting it out is a better option at times - we may not do it, but giving yourself time to be in awe of someone from a distance can be a safer option & selfless act.
its just too messy when there's more than one person involved.
& always be mindful of Karmic action