Whichever race or nationality I marry, my dad is not exempting anyone from paying lobola, I know that much.
Isn't the money used for the wedding?
Or do people still buy room dividers and dining room suites?
Also, doesn't the money vary according to whether the woman has children, is educated, has a good reputation etc, or is it all std now?
At people coping room dividers. I'm sure there still some serious plotters out there who plan their house extension money with the lobola loot.
Yeah, it's supposed to vary but it's hard to say by how much because things like reputation (a good one) are hard to quantify. I mean you would not be marrying her if she had a bad rep, I a**ume. But what used to count I hear is the standing of your fam - if they were educated, / educators or business people or high up in the church, this would raise the stakes. But these days none of that seems to counts. SA middle cla** and lower middle cla** families are sort of the same these days. Even the education thing is hard to quantify. Now, a girl with a post matric qualification (say a 3 yr degree) is generally regarded as amongst the most educated in SA (if only 5% of SA have that 3 yr degree). Does it go up for someone with honours/masters? Is there a difference between a doctor and someone with a Masters in Engineering or Economics? Basically these peeps went to school for the same number of years as the doc, so does that make a difference?
I never got the point about education - it's like the dude is being asked to pay the folks back for what they spent educating her. What if the dude is even more educated.