To the guys, I hope u never 4get what a sister means in your life.
It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a
Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I´m so glad
she got what she asked for (and more)!!!
This letter was written in response to an article in Sister 2 Sister:
Dear Jamie:
I´m sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking,
educated and loving. I just don´t understand a lot of Black female´s
attitudes about our relationship.
My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women
were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too
mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too
much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached
by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If
Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don´t
they look at themselves and make some changes.
I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we´re out in
public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so
appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26
years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson
Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry
Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius,
Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go
on and on.
But, right now, I´m a little angry and that is why I wrote this so
hurriedly. Don´t be mad with us White women because so many of your men
want us.
Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat
your men better. If I´m wrong, Black men, let me know.
- Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA.
Response:
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated
from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a
Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a
major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider
myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to
set the record straight of why black men date white women.
Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white
women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my
neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when
they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our
impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up
easy without too much ha**le. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they
are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of
insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by
the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be
more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and
own bigger houses.
Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman.
Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they
continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their
white women.
I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to
know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like
Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will
Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson,
and Chris Rock all married strong black women. And, to flip the script,
there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly
or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert
DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.
I just don´t want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop
thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess.
Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were
ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves
of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with
clubs.
Read your history! It was the black woman that taught you how to cook
and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to
praise your children. It was black women who were breastfeeding and
raising your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to
endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed,
and thrown in jail.
Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and
being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!
It is because of the black women´s strength, elegance, power, love and
beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not
just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not
the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I
love them.
Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women.
Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their
ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what
they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their
highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have
fallen in love with black women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and
envy than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you
continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so
proud to be white, then why don´t you just be happy with your pale skin?
Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with
unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more
voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to
have what the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk
over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am
looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and
mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands
my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister
and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill. No offense
taken, none given.
Signed,
Black Royalty
:-)
[ This message was edited by: digabledust on 10-11-2003 12:40 ]
