never said I dont wear make-up or weaves (I DO NOT WEAR WEAVES... but thats preference). I also said there are real, cool, sweet wonderful girls of all types that guys ignore- by "all types" I meant all girls, even the ones who wear weaves and what not. Trust me, there are enough nappy haired, long skirt wearing "afrocentric sistah" women who are foul as shit ...PLENTY!
The basic tenets of what I'm saying is that there is balance. Brick speaks as if there is an imbalance- that black women have "changed" while black men have stayed constant, which is not the case. Black men skipped out of blackness and the black family a loooong time ago (in a way by force and in pother ways voluntarily), and black women have had to change to meet those challenges, even if it means resorting to stupid, fear-based control tactics like putting impossible criteria for how they choose partners... and indeed looking at a man's shoes before taking in who he really is. The dynamic between us is not the same as before.... it doesnt matter WHO he is...as long as he can do A, B and C. Im not condoning or decrying anything- all Im saying is those ridiculous demands women make are a result of the black experience over the last 70 years or so. This thing is inter-generational, I'm afraid. We are dealing now with the outcomes of the relationship dynamic between our parent's generation- where the black home disintegrated. Now mothers teach their daughters 'this is the kind of man you want' 'stay away from him' ... its all defense tactics... form generations of women who've been hurt. And if that makes you mad as a black man, Im sorry. And if I may ask, where is your daddy? Most likely you dont know... and your mom had to teach you how to be a man- and because your father wasnt shit, she probably molded you to be the type of man that caters to women in the way today's girl is being raised to look for a man that can do A, B and C... so you're perfect for each other.
I see a few ruffled feathers... mama likes.