Girls vs briCK

[General Ratzinger van Stilzkin]

i believe in taking personal responsibility. its not in just what you get, but also what you put out.

So you dont think woman act the part? There have been a LOT of decent guys that have been duped into relationships and marriages.

What does complexion really have to do with anything? As if women dont have their own criteria when it comes to choosing mates?

If Latte was the natural nappy hair having type, who never wore make up or weaves, i would see a whole lot more authenticity in what she posted. I have respect for her admitting that she does the whole make-up thing as well.
But all she comes off as is a bitter self hating biggot. I may be wrong, but just my opinion. I am not trying to disrespect her at all either.

To each their own. Bottom line.

hold on there buddy, i think u may be missing the point

she just laid it out bare, i doubt she chose a side here. all shes saying is see it as it is. and stop bitching about it.

[Papa ThReAdS]

i believe in taking personal responsibility. its not in just what you get, but also what you put out.

So you dont think woman act the part? There have been a LOT of decent guys that have been duped into relationships and marriages.

What does complexion really have to do with anything? As if women dont have their own criteria when it comes to choosing mates?

If Latte was the natural nappy hair having type, who never wore make up or weaves, i would see a whole lot more authenticity in what she posted. I have respect for her admitting that she does the whole make-up thing as well.
But all she comes off as is a bitter self hating biggot. I may be wrong, but just my opinion. I am not trying to disrespect her at all either.

To each their own. Bottom line.

hold on there buddy, i think u may be missing the point

she just laid it out bare, i doubt she chose a side here. all shes saying is see it as it is. and stop bitching about it.

In all that 'laying it out' she found a bit of a gap to do a little bitching of her own.
But anyway, to each their own fam.

[Anna Sasin]

so many dudes seek out basic bitches cos they dont even know what a cool chick is. You gravitate to what you want. stop this BS crying online. If you want realness, use your god-given instinct to shift your balance to attract the kind of women that suit what you are looking for. Stop chasing hoes and chicks who aint about their realness then crying and vilifying ALL of us cos yall ignore us chasing these below par, no substance having bitches ...cos theyre easy and willing to put themselves aside to "cater to you and be the perfect girlfriend who'll do everything you want". a bunch of yalls is punks who cant stand to be challenged intellectually and emotionally and go for these light-skin, high yella bitches with entitlement issues cos they grew up being exalted and now they think they something akin to a white woman- the black man's GRAND PRIZE. then its us cool chicks who have to placate and rea**ure you when the plastic weave catches fire and burns you. and all the while we have to settle for "friend" status. There are plenty of righteous girls out there of all types, but none of yall want them because you are just as shallow as the girls you are crying about. Yall deserve each other cos yall are all actors and yall mistake love and relationships for control. Everytime a bitch "treat you like a king" its control. everytime she speaks sweet and tells you some "oh baby you the best bullshit" its control... everytime a bitch set a criteria for the man she wants in her life its control- shes been taught to bargain what she has for more. everytime a bitch singe her waist with a belt and wear red lipstick and makeup, its control. I do that, we all do that, but a real girl knows whats up and she knows to also exist outside of that and still be comfortable. and everytime you chase money to impress bitches, its control, cos you know without money you are laid bare, and there is no basis for anything except who you are. Why cant you just be, and love for the sake of love? stop chasing these no daddy havin bitches who are only living out the dissapointments of their mothers cos daddy wasnt shit! And YOU stop being tha man mom raised you to be cos daddy failed her, so shes molding you to be a man that caters to a bitch and does this or that for a bitch. Since apartheid killed the black family, we are on some bullshit, all of us. Why cant you just be yourself? Why must you have a "type of woman/man" that you want- they have to fulfill a criteria- thats not love, thats control! none of us know black love anymore cos we are all white. Black men have come to have the expectations of white men towards their own women, why shouldnt black women equally grow to have white female's expectations of their mans? its only balanced. The women arent doing something bizzare, look at yourself, you are a white man now and you expect a white woman out of me, your supposed "black queen". Now you got one, now you cryin. admit it black man, you aint the same anymore, you done changed and sold out... GIMME SOME MONEY BITCH... buy ME a goddamn house before I give up this pussy!!!

many profound points made here.agreed.
but if you're balanced out yourself,you attract the right ones, not all men are the same either.
what you truly are (not what you 'want') will find you.
hence i agree with you that shallow people are attracting one another.

[Touareg]

mxim!!! If the black man's changed...adopt woman!!! Stop whining, its not attractive...

... ermmm, I think what you meant to say was "adapt" ... I'll forgive you though. Yes, black women are indeed "adopting" ... good spelling, diction and grammar for one 

Yeah that too...

[churchofthe latterdayLatte]

never said I dont wear make-up or weaves (I DO NOT WEAR WEAVES... but thats preference). I also said there are real, cool, sweet wonderful girls of all types that guys ignore- by "all types" I meant all girls, even the ones who wear weaves and what not. Trust me, there are enough nappy haired, long skirt wearing "afrocentric sistah" women who are foul as shit ...PLENTY!

The basic tenets of what I'm saying is that there is balance. Brick speaks as if there is an imbalance- that black women have "changed" while black men have stayed constant, which is not the case. Black men skipped out of blackness and the black family a loooong time ago (in a way by force and in pother ways voluntarily), and black women have had to change to meet those challenges, even if it means resorting to stupid, fear-based control tactics like putting impossible criteria for how they choose partners... and indeed looking at a man's shoes before taking in who he really is. The dynamic between us is not the same as before.... it doesnt matter WHO he is...as long as he can do A, B and C. Im not condoning or decrying anything-  all Im saying is those ridiculous demands women make are a result of the black experience over the last 70 years or so. This thing is inter-generational, I'm afraid. We are dealing now with the outcomes of the relationship dynamic between our parent's generation- where the black home disintegrated. Now mothers teach their daughters 'this is the kind of man you want' 'stay away from him' ... its all defense tactics... form generations of women who've been hurt. And if that makes you mad as a black man, Im sorry. And if I may ask, where is your daddy? Most likely you dont know... and your mom had to teach you how to be a man- and because your father wasnt shit, she probably molded you to be the type of man that caters to women in the way today's girl is being raised to look for a man that can do A, B and C... so you're perfect for each other.

 I see a few ruffled feathers... mama likes.  

[churchofthe latterdayLatte]

I've never had the misfortune of dealing with an a**hole dude, because Im aware of this dynamic. I've been lucky enough to attract what I want. All Im trying to do is get us clear of the issues at play, before we make blanket a**essments.

[Anna Sasin]

Noted.

[churchofthe latterdayLatte]

 Riggz
In all that 'laying it out' she found a bit of a gap to do a little bitching of her own.
But anyway, to each their own fam.
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Bitching? I'm a girl. What's YOUR excuse At this rate you might have to abandon the tampax altogether and just go for Pampers for that extra strong protection.

[Papa ThReAdS]

Riggz
In all that 'laying it out' she found a bit of a gap to do a little bitching of her own.
But anyway, to each their own fam.

Bitching? I'm a girl. What's YOUR excuse At this rate you might have to abandon the tampax altogether and just go for Pampers for that extra strong protection.
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Hahah. No doubt.

[briCK]

Well...that don't change shit..I'll stay taking shots at these silly girls.


I don't like knock kneed hoes, skinney hoes, and bitches who dream in english!

[churchofthe latterdayLatte]

furthermore... the sad fact is in the black community you have women telling women how to get a man and what they should look for in a man and at the same time you have women (single mothers) telling men how to be a man... so you're bound to have crisis. Thats why so many men are bitches now... the effects of the disconnect are starting to show. Until the black family is a balanced unit again (which doesnt look like its happening), we are going to see problems like these manifesting themselves in black dating habits.

[The Mighty Loks]

furthermore... the sad fact is in the black community you have women telling women how to get a man and what they should look for in a man and at the same time you have women (single mothers) telling men how to be a man... so you're bound to have crisis. Thats why so many men are bitches now... the effects of the disconnect are starting to show. Until the black family is a balanced unit again (which doesnt look like its happening), we are going to see problems like these manifesting themselves in black dating habits.

Cosign and the sad reality is we're drifting further and further apart from each other it' just making things worse. Our generation has just been dealt a losing hand and until we realise this and stop pointing finger and start fixing it the sooner we start producing quality families.

[churchofthe latterdayLatte]

exactly. These things can be fixed if we stopped chasing trinkets and tricks from other cultures and focused to fix the fundamental fragment within ourselves.

[briCK]

well...

I hang around older women...26 - 38 age group, what I find intresting is the contempt and bitterness some of these girls habour towards black men.....most of them are not married and its "The black man's fault , they too scared of successful women" all the while I thinking to myself..NO..its that kind of thinking that repells guys....I don't think there is anything more disgusting than women bashing guys.

Black guys got no style, or sense of romance ..unlike white men...., yada yada yada....black men have respect for black woman, white males don't respect females period!

[The Mighty Loks]

well...

I hang around older women...26 - 38 age group, what I find intresting is the contempt and bitterness some of these girls habour towards black men.....most of them are not married and its "The black man's fault , they too scared of successful women" all the while I thinking to myself..NO..its that kind of thinking that repells guys....I don't think there is anything more disgusting than women bashing guys.

Black guys got no style, or sense of romance ..unlike white men...., yada yada yada....black men have respect for black woman, white males don't respect females period!

What have you done to prove them wrong?