This is strangeness to my mind...Cos one would think @ 30 and having spent time with Xhosas, you woulda realised the significance of ulwaluko...What about fam? havent your uncles,pops, big bro's or even friends spoken to you about this?
I don't get it...Werent you one of the cats who called Mad "Jwabulani"?
Look I'm not gon diss or judge I just wanna understand this...Cos personally I never questioned it, It was something I looked forward to after matric, Something That I not only HAD to do, but something I WANTED to do...It was my culture and that's it!
If I'm being personal forgive me bro, I just dont understand being a 30 Year old Xhosa boy...
BTW I've seen a 56 year old mkhwetha...not a good look! so might wanna check yourself...
I thought it was no secret here on AG that Im Xhosa and never went for circumcision. I don't know how many times I've spoken about this here. I dont think I ever called Mad Jwabulani, if I did, you might have to maybe check the context at which I did.
To respond to the rest of what you said. Thats the thing with the Xhosa definition of manhood and respect, I don't relate to it at all. I respect a lot about my culture and I follow the customs and tradition now but the reasons explained to me as into why I should do it don't appeal to me at all.
I have just met my fathers side of the family for the first time, now i have to deal with his older brothers about this issue and i was told by one of them straight up that it will come to me being forced to do it. I've only met him about a month ago but this seems to be the most important/worrying issue for him. He strikes me as a good person but the authority in which he already thinks he has over me and that decision is really something else.
From both sides of the family, I know there will come a time where I will be caught sleeping. I'm sure you know what I mean.
I have made a decision to go though, that was after panic's comment. now choosing a side (father's or mothers) by which i should do is going to be a real challenge.